Before you marry
Talk it through before the wedding, not after
It helps engaged couples who are bringing two faiths, two languages or two families to one wedding and one home.
Over a few sessions you talk about what each of you takes for granted: holidays, food, money, children, who lives near whom, and what the ceremony should and should not include.
Eighty minutes, with both of you
A few sessions, at the pace you choose
Faith and family on the table, not decided for you
What to expect
The method, the pace and what this is not
What sessions look like
Each session takes one subject you choose, such as holidays or how you will talk with each other's parents, and gives both of you time to answer it.
The method
Your clinician draws on emotionally focused therapy and Gottman-informed work, and tells you which they use and where they trained.
What this is not
It is not religious instruction, a test your relationship passes or fails, or a way to settle which family gets its way.
Length and frequency
Your clinician sets the pace with you. Some couples meet a few times before the wedding; others keep going after. We do not promise a number of sessions.
You pay at the end of each session, and you get a written estimate first if you pay without insurance.
Questions
Three questions about sessions before a wedding
Do we need a wedding date?
No. Some couples come when they first talk about marriage, and others a few months before.
Can our officiant or faith leader take part?
Only if you both ask, and we explain first what would be shared. We do not speak for any faith.
Is this the same as couples therapy?
It runs the same way, with sessions of 80 minutes, but it looks ahead to the life you are about to share.
Write to us to begin
Tell us who the two of you are and when you hope to marry, if you know.